The Victorian Language of Flowers: A Secret Code

A girl holds an armful of forget me not flowers on a Valentine card

The Victorian Language of Flowers: A Secret Code

A girl holds an armful of forget me not flowers on a Valentine card
Forget Me Nots were a Victorian symbol of love

Today, giving flowers is a popular Valentine’s Day gift. A little more than a century ago, however, flowers were more than simply beautiful gifts. The type of flower given, even how the flowers were arranged, sent messages in a secret code. This is known as florigraphy, the language of flowers.

The purpose of these secret messages was to express emotions that society dictated could not be spoken out loud. The messages were decoded with the aid of flower dictionaries. At the peak of florigraphy, there were more than 400 floral dictionaries on the market, and sometimes a flower had a different meaning depending on the dictionary consulted.

It was popular to give others small floral arrangements called tussie-mussies or nosegays to convey messages. The arrangements were worn or carried as a fashion accessory. In addition to the flowers, they contained a doily and a ribbon.

The Language of Flowers

What does this woman's bouquet mean in the language of flowers?
What does this woman’s bouquet mean in the language of flowers?

These are a few examples of flowers and their meanings:

  • Baby’s Breath: Innocence
  • Begonia: Beware
  • Stripped Carnation: No
  • Dandelion: Faithful, Happy
  • Dead leaves: Sadness
  • Fern: Magic
  • Grass: Homosexual love
  • Purple hyacinth: I’m sorry
  • Calla lily: Beauty
  • Morning glory: Affection
  • Nuts: Stupidity
  • Olive branch: Peace
  • Poppy: Eternal Sleep
  • Pink rose: Happiness
  • Red rose: Love
  • Yellow rose: Friendship
  • Tall sunflower: Pride
  • Variegated tulip: Beautiful eyes
  • Verbena: Pray for me
  • Wisteria: Welcome
  • Mixed Zinnia: Thinking of an absent friend

Delivery Options

As important as the flowers chosen was their method of delivery.

If a bouquet was delivered upright, the message was positive. Delivered upside-down, the message was negative. Handed to someone with the right hand meant “yes.” Handed with the left hand meant “no.”

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Updated:  2 August 2018

Melina Druga
Most kids have an active imagination. My imagination has stayed strong into adulthood, and I’ve funneled that creativity into a successful writing career. I write history, both fiction and nonfiction, because although your school history classes may have been boring, the past is not. My goal is to bring the past to life in all its myriad of colors.
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